Ep 11: 5 Incredible Benefits of Mastering Detachment

The process of becoming detached from things you placed high amounts of value upon can be incredibly daunting. We can spend several years being content little pack rats, but really what we’ve really done is build our own prisons for which we are both the guards and the inmates. The things you own end up owning you - it’s true, I can attest. Until one day this past June, a single moment arrived where it made complete sense and I wasn’t afraid to let go of anything - anymore. My radical shift was instantaneous and absolute. Since then, I’ve witnessed first hand a heightened awareness - akin to leveling up in a video game. Feelings of accomplishment and nirvana. And along the way, I discovered 5 key benefits throughout my process of mastering the concept of Detachment - (likely) a core principle of minimalism. I’d love to share them with you, let’s start with…

Liberation (#1)

When you first accept just how easily replaceable much of what you’ve been holding onto really is, you’ll immediately feel liberated from your self-imposed imprisonment. As someone who suffered from a "mild" case of OCD for many of my young adult years, I know how guarded one can be towards their personal belongings, furniture and school memorabilia (aka geekdom). It made the freedom I now feel that much more formidable. The chains of worry, concern and guilt are a heavy set, but I broke them and detached myself from them. I’m now a bald (well, not bald) eagle soaring amongst the clouds and mountain tops with laser focus and undeniable…

Clarity (#2)

Removing all of the gunk and junk clutter you’ve accumulated over the years (or decades!) will undoubtedly provide you with a sharper, keener sense of worth and purpose. You’ll get back to the basics - back to the essence of who you are. Plus you’ll have stronger clarity of both the ways in which you were overly attached and why. I think at its root, attachment is fueled by fear. A fear of being robbed. A fear of losing everything you ever worked hard for. A fear of letting go. A fear of your car blowing up in some freak gas station accident (Zoolander reference)! But most of these fears are outside your field of influence, so why worry? It’s now super-clear. You can find yourself again through the process of…

Discovery (#3)

I told you in one of my earlier posts that I believed there was more to you. In fact, I know there is. Humans are amazingly complex beings. By mastering detachment, you discover your willpower to make a drastic change for betterment. You discover the creative ways in which people who might buy your old belongings and collectibles would use them. One man’s trash is another man’s treasure. I sold a lot of my things and gave some stuff away for free. People were so grateful and I’m happy that those items will find new owners and evoke new happiness. I discovered the good that came from letting go - the lives that were affected. In hindsight, I gained…

Foresight (#4)

If you never experienced it before, detachment is a great catalyst for inducing the ability to see past your current circumstances and into a more abundant future. Your situation right now could be a dire one. One filled with regrets, fears, complacency and worries. Somehow, these intangible feelings become personified through our possessions. When you don’t have much, the little that you do have, you want to keep close, right? I know. But if you can just foresee that your most fulfilled self is within your field of influence, it’s a powerful realization. In fact, it’s a mandatory one if you don’t believe you were fated to dwell in your present conditions for your entire life. Our obsessions with our possessions keep us just shy of achieving true fulfillment and purpose. Detachment will give you a heavy dose of…

Empowerment (#5)

When everything’s for sale, the power’s back in your hands. Emotionally and literally disengaging from certain objects ironically fills with you power you can wield to get things done. The things you try to control can end up controlling you. So keep the things you control to a bare minimum - where your realm of power is strongest and most potent. Anything that’s yours can be taken from you in an instant, in a million different ways. Your insurance covers the majority of these possessions. For the irreplaceable ones, well, keep in mind, whatever will be, will be. All one can do is put out as much good into the world as possible - this is completely your choice. And this power is yours.

Mastering detachment is already easily one of the most memorable endeavors of my lifetime. I still have work to do, as I have not fully mastered the concept yet. Things like, detachment from expectations, detachment from guilt and detachment from money are all in progress. It’s a journey more than it is a destination. While accepting detachment as a notion I would explore was immediate, I knew the act of actually employing it would take time and dedication. So far, I must say, it has made me more giving, more sharing, and less secretive.

Coming from the extremity associated with OCD, I don’t know if there’s a better cure than mastery of disassociation. I have lived it and have changed. A lot of us have much milder symptoms than checking our front and back door locks 15 times before we leave. Some of us are just holding onto to too much. Perhaps knowing that there are at least 5 indelible byproducts of detachment will help you make that move.

Are you a pack-rat? Do you have possessions you really could live without? Are you too attached to some things in life? Or am I all alone here? I’d love to know…